Friday, December 23, 2011

Scientists’ research: Marriage after meeting online

The authors of the new research published in the USA are sure that meeting on the Internet more often leads to a strong and happy marriage. According to the statistics, a partner who is found on the Web is richer and more educated than a partner who managed to get acquainted with through friends, at work or in an educational institution.

The authors analyzed the data that were obtained after a survey of 19 thousand people who got married between 2009 and 2016. 35% of respondents got acquainted with their future loved ones on the Internet - this giant figure itself surprised experts. At the same time, only 45% of the meetings were made due to dating sites, future spouses were successfully acquainted on the pages of social networks, blogs and forums, as well as in classifieds ads m4w or w4m.


"Surprisingly, we found out that marriages that were made after online dating, can be considered more effective," – says John Cacioppo, a psychologist at the University of Illinois, Chicago, who led the research team.

The scientist noted that at the time of the survey only 6% of marriages concluded after dating on the Internet fell apart. For family unions this indicator was 8%. In addition, the researchers noted a higher satisfaction with marriage, which is measured on a seven-point scale. For married couples who get married after online dating this number is 5.6%, and for the remaining families - 5.5%.

However, some experts criticized the methodology used in the research. So, Eli Finkel, a psychologist from the Northwestern University in Evanston, Illinois is sure: the errors due to the characteristics of online surveys can exceed the real difference in the sought-for indicators. The scientist drew attention to the fact that 19 thousand completed questionnaires were analyzed, while about half of people simply did not complete the questionnaire until the end. "Perhaps the people who filled out the questionnaire are simply more patient by nature, does this fact make them more patient and married?" Suggested Finkel.

Experts stated that Internet services and social networks lead to revolutionary changes in people's way of life. In social networks, the issue of the exchange of services has already been resolved, the issue of payments has been practically resolved, part of the exchanges have been commercialized, said Vladimir Knyaginin, the director of the Center for Strategic Research.

Thursday, December 22, 2011

Being a Man Means Being Decisive

Rihanna likes a man who makes decisions, read on below
If there is one really important concept that was drilled into my head after speaking with one of my close female friends, it's that women like men who are decisive.  Within the courtship ritual, the man leads and the woman follows, and in order to do this he must continually make decisions on where to go and what to do.

Have you ever watched a tango dance?  It perfectly demonstrates without words how a man leads with his posture, how he moves his feet and this allows the woman to listen and know how to follow.  They both communicate and when done well, the dance flows effortlessly.  (In particular, check out the 1:02 mark where the dancers rapidly move their legs with graceful and intertwined kicks.  These two are truly in sync.)

The man chases the woman, asks her out on a date and begins the courtship.  Within this courtship ritual, it's vitally important that the man takes the lead by arranging the dates and allow the woman the joy of going on a fun ride....because after all, isn't that what a good date is all about?  

Think of it from the woman's perspective, she can sit back, relax and know that a fun evening awaits her.  She's in charge of every other aspect of her life: her career, her taxes, her exercise regiment, her errands and so much more...but on one night for this date she can enjoy herself knowing everything is taken care of.

This is why men take women out to dinner.

This is why men pay for the fist date...making sure it's nothing extravagant but still a good time.

In my 26 years on this Earth, I've learned to take control and assume the role of the leader.  In a group, people often don't want to take this position because there is the responsibility that goes with it like: what if the place we're going to isn't fun?  What if the food isn't good?  

It's better to make a quick, informed decision and move forward then to wait and delay taking action.  

Back to my female friend, for New Years Eve, she had no idea what she was going to do.  All of her friends were looking at her to make a decision and it was exhausting.  She tried to please everyone, but everyone just wanted her to figure out the details of the night and they would go along for the ride.  

I know for a fact that when she's dating and meeting men, she's looking for a guy who takes charge and allows her the joy of relaxing, while knowing everything is taken care of.  Her date doesn't ask her, "soooo, where do you want to go tonight?"  Ask that question to a woman you're going to go out with and note her reaction.  It'll probably be one of confusion and a look of, "who exactly is in charge of this first date?  If I'm in charge of this night, is that how the rest of the relationship will play out?"  

Here's a quote by Rihanna that really confirms everything I've said.  One of the most beautiful and successful popstars around, Rihanna spoke about what she likes in a man in an interview with Glamour Magazine 

"I  absolutely do prefer a dominant guy. I play a very dominant role in my life, in every other aspect of it. And I like to feel like a lady still, at some point. I feel like that’s the time when a guy really gets to be a man, and I get to be a woman."

Basically, she's in control of every aspect of her life, but when it comes to romance she's still a woman who likes a man who leads and makes decisions.  This idea of being decisive plays a role in more than just romance.  Be quick to make decisions and it helps everyone in your life.  Here are a few simple little examples:

  • A friend of mine comes into town for a few days and wants to have a good time.  Rather than ask, "what do you want to do?  What food do you feel like eating?"  I setup a fun itinerary and he's more than happy to enjoy the ride.

  • One of my family members did not know what he wanted as a gift for the holidays.  We asked him for weeks and weeks and discussed how annoying it was that he put off making a decision.  Eventually we just had to pick a gift, as it was too late for him to maybe let us know what he actually wanted. 
And You know what's the best part of making a decision?  When you make a decision, your head is cleared.  You can now not worry about "where am I going to take her?" or "what am I doing next Friday?" but instead get it taken care of and move on.  

You should also note how decisiveness also plays a role in what happens in more intimate setting.  As Rihanna says,

" And if I’m being a man in the bedroom too, there’s nothing really in it for me."

If you don't think this is true, then go up and have an honest conversation with a female friend and leave a comment below on what they think.  Do they prefer when a mad leads?  When he plans the date?  

Monday, November 28, 2011

An amazing podcast by David Wygant

I'm doing one of the most annoying and boring parts of running a business:  accounting.  I'm taking tons of receipts and putting them into an excel document and making it clear and organized.  

To provide some sort of stimulation, I listen to podcasts so I can learn more from people more experienced than myself.  I was listening to one podcast with my favorite dating coach David Wygant.  He's a true man and I am a regular reader of his daily blog.

He recently put up an interview that includes some amazing ideas, suggestions and first-hand experiences on the subjects of dating, self-awareness and life purpose.  It's an hour long interview and to hear his passion for helping people is inspiring and entertaining.  

My favorite moment is when he describes how he met a beautiful woman at his favorite taco restaurant in Texas.  His approach was genuine, complimentary and powerful.  Listen and learn:

Monday, October 24, 2011

First Date Ideas: Darts and Ice Cream

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I’ve recently gotten to know the guys at DateMasters and they’d like to share a guest blog post on the topic of fun and inexpensive first dates.  Their site offers advice on finding, meeting, getting and keeping high value women of exceptional beauty and great accomplishment.  You can check out their free tips, blogs and newsletters here:  


Hey everyone. This is Jack D. Serrano, Executive Trainer from DateMasters

When you meet a lot of women, it's essential that you have several good date plans that you can use again and again. It's also important to keep these dates fairly inexpensive and fun. No need to go all out and spend a ton of money trying to impress the girl. If she is honestly interested in you and has a good attitude, then she'll be more than happy to spend a fun evening with you, regardless of how much you spend. If she's just out to get free dates from guys then you can be sure that keeping your first few dates inexpensive will drive her crazy. Either way is good for you!

First things first, go meet more women. We recommend that all guys meet as many women as possible. Not only does it give you more options, but it also lets you hone your dating skills (making her laugh, having fun conversation, listening, watching out for signs she might be nuts.) 

And now for the date…

I've gone out for Darts and Ice Cream as a first date countless times with all kinds of different girls, from models and dancers to stock market analysts.  You can meet up with her in the evening around 7p.m. or 8p.m. or later on a weeknight.

Start with dart. It gives her a chance to get her blood flowing and have some good, active fun (with you). Then you get to relax and have a bit of light conversation afterwards. Dates tend to flow best when you do the activity followed by the meal (or ice cream or coffee or drinks).
So we start off with darts and have a few fun games full of light, playful conversation.  It doesn’t matter if you’re good or not because the joy comes from the activity, instead of trying to show off your pro skills.  It’s important to keep the conversation enjoyable and not serious…you can save those for a few dates down the line…as dates are supposed to be fun for both people. 

We’ll play darts for a while, anywhere from 45 to 90 minutes, before I offer my arm to my date and head off for ice cream.

Feel free to substitute this with drinks, smoothies, or any other relatively inexpensive place where you can sit down and get to know her better. We like to keep it inexpensive for a couple reasons.

1) It weeds out women who are just using you for a free meal or night out
2) It slows down the whole dating process.

One of the biggest mistakes guys make is getting way too serious, way too fast with girls they like. This is especially important for really great women.  Beautiful, smart, successful, driven women are used to guys they date falling for them too quickly. It's a turn-off and they get bored with guys like that.

While you eat ice cream, continue to have fun, light conversation. This is also your chance to get to know her better to find out if she really is more than just a pretty face; someone who you want to spend more time with beyond this first date. You should be different from most guys by ACTUALLY getting to know her. Listen to what she has to say and make her laugh.  Also, keep your eyes and ears open for red flags that might cause trouble later on down the road.  Volumes could be written on the subject, but I think you get the idea.

This date usually lasts 2-3 hours and by the end a simple kiss is a nice finish. 

Overall, Darts and Ice Cream accomplishes everything you need for a great first date with a great woman. 

Thanks Jack!  I personally would substitute ice cream for gelato, which I detail in this post about Two Really Fun Date Ideasfor under $40

Next week, I’ll share one of my favorite afternoon dates and how it can lead to an even more fun evening…which involves you cooking for her...

Monday, October 17, 2011

The Coffee Date Pt 3: The Ideal Date

Finally, after recounting two coffee dates I’ve experienced, there is some wisdom to be shared.  The first date was Pricey at a Restaurant and the second was more Casual.

The Ideal Coffee Date is casual and can be a springboard for a greater experience.  It is merely a way to get together and enjoy light conversation over a hot beverage. 

There are two good times to meet for a coffee date:

1)  Weekend afternoon. 

Meet her on a Saturday or Sunday during the afternoon, which happens after brunch but before dinner.  Choose a great cafe with character that is not a  Starbucks or a sit-down restaurant.  In Culver City alone, The Conservatory and the Akasha Café are fantastic places with a good ambiance, music and quality coffee and pastries. 

The great thing about a weekend afternoon meetup is that it takes no precious time out of anybody’s weekend.  It’s before dinner, so you both can have plans made up beforehand.

But… if it’s going well… you can keep the day going, do an activity, get dinner or even get together later that night.  If your weekend is booked in advance and you want to keep things casual you can also meet on a:

2)  Weekday evening… after dinner

A weekday coffee date is more of a “lets get a hot beverage and dessert” setup, because it’ll take place at 8:30p.m or later to emphasize that the activity at hand is enjoying a late night dessert.  Most likely, you’ll both order tea or a decaf, but if she orders a regular coffee, she’ll have a lot more energy.

A Starbucks will do, if you can find a less-corporatized café with live music or even poetry reading (always worth a laugh), it’ll be more fun. 

These dates can then lead to a short walk around the neighborhood and have the potential to be extended or cut short.  I’d suggest cutting it short and seeing if you can get together that weekend for a second date like seeing a museum, event, movie or concert. 

I feel like I’ve described the setup of the coffee date…but I hope you know the more important that

It’s not about the coffee, it’s about the connection. 

No matter how well-planned a date is, the most important is if you two are having a good time together.  That you’re laughing, getting to know each other and flirting with each other.  Have fun!  Life is short, and even the most casual dates should be injected with a sense of joy and stimulation

Like a shot of espresso, but stronger.

Next week I’m excited to step away from the podium and share a guest post from another dating blogger that features an unusual first date that I guarantee you’ve never experienced.

Monday, October 10, 2011

The Coffee Date Pt 2: The Casual Date

The Gist:  Tips for enjoying a casual coffee date at a local café.

In the second part of our exploration of the coffee date, we’re going to look into what I call “The Casual Date”  This date is comfortable and easy to plan, as it involves meeting a girl on a weeknight evening at a nearby café, like a Starbucks or Coffee Bean, without the fuss of ordering at a restaurant and having a waiter serving you.  You can checkout the previous post on a coffee date at a restaurant here:     

The following describes an actual coffee date that happened recently. 

The setup
My buddy and I were playing tennis one evening and I saw two women playing a set next to us.  One of them caught my eye and after some flirty exchanges we exchanged phone numbers.  We didn’t know each other that well, so I called her up and suggested we go out for a cup of coffee at the Starbucks in Downtown Culver City, which is close to where we both live.

The day of, she texted me to ask what time to meet, and since I get home from work around 6:30 p.m. from work, I said that 7:00 p.m. would be good. 

At Starbucks, I was excited to see her off the tennis court.  She arrived and soon we were in line to order our drinks: for her a green tea and for me a coffee.  As I eyed the desserts, I offered to get something that we could share.  She was interested, but wanted only a small bite.  I decided to indulge and get a cookie as we sat down together.

In conversation, we had a good time chatting, but I noticed that from the questions I asked her, her responses were rather short.  I couldn’t tell if she was a little nervous from the first date, or if there wasn’t much chemistry.  As we talked I noticed a few silences, and by the third one it felt like it had been a while and so I decided to end the date.  As we left the café, I checked my watch and noticed it was 8:15 p.m.

I walked her back to her car, we hugged and I bid her goodbye.

Continuing my walk to my apartment, I randomly saw her from across the street walking in the opposite direction.  She waved and I asked where she was going.  She said she was heading to a nearby Indian market to get some food.  This whole time she had been hungry and I hadn’t even known!  As I headed home that Thursday evening …

Here’s What I Learned

1)  Choose a time to meet AFTER dinner.  Having a late night coffee on a weeknight is a perfect reason to get together for a first date, but emphasize in your conversation with her that you two are meeting for coffee and dessert.  A good time to meet is 8:30 p.m. or 9:00 p.m., so you can meet for a hot drink and it’s implied that both of you have had enough time to get home from work, relax, have a bite and then meetup.  This way you’re not caught in the awkward situation I was in of seeing the girl you were with go out for a quick dinner after your date.

2)  Enjoy the coffee in a real cup.  A lot of people don’t know this, but you can elevate your coffee experience at Starbucks, Coffee Bean or any coffee chain by asking at the register for your drink to be poured in a porcelain cup.  This way you can hold a real, hot mug with tea or coffee and besides making your drink taste better than sipping it through plastic, the experience feels more at-home and enjoyable.

3)  Go Decaf.  I made the mistake one time of having coffee on a first date at 9:30 p.m. on a weeknight and later could not fall asleep until 1 a.m.  Just because you’re “meeting for coffee” doesn’t mean it has to be an espresso, and I recommend choosing decaf or tea so that you can get some sleep later that night.

4)  About an hour is ideal for a coffee first date.  We left the coffee shop at 8:15 p.m., meaning we had been sitting and drinking for almost 75 minutes.  It felt a bit long and I realized it’s best to keep the date a little shorter and even ending it early while it’s still fun so that you’re both excited to get together for a second date.  Plus, if you’re drinking coffee from a mug, it will naturally cool down in about 20 minutes, so once you’ve both finished nursing your beverages, make that the reason to end the night, rather than sit there with two empty cups.  Even if it’s going really well, an hour is enough.

I highly recommend this more casual experience for a coffee date as most women will agree to meet for coffee on a first date because it’s easy and comfortable.  Also, it’s not a strain on your wallet, so you can take her out for something more exciting the next time once you’re sure there’s a real connection.

The final blog post on the coffee date will synthesize everything I’ve experienced from my own coffee dates plus what I’ve learned from insightful conversations with my female friends.  I call it “The Ideal Date.”  Check it out next Monday…but in the meantime meet a girl for coffee and let us know in the comments what you learned from the experience.  

Monday, October 3, 2011

The Coffee Date Pt 1: A caffeinated look into a classic first date

The Gist:  This is the first of three posts looking at three different coffee dates and what I’ve learned from each experience.

For a man on a budget, taking a girl out for a cup of coffee on a first date is a wonderfully simple way to get together without investing a lot of time or money.  It may not have the jazz and excitement of an exotic lounge, restaurant or concert experience, but it still allows two people to get to know each other and see if there’s a real connection.  Discovering a connection with a woman is the reason that relationships work or don’t work out in the first place, so why spend tons of money doing elaborate activities when a hot drink at a café works just as well?

From my own experience, there are several factors to consider on a coffee date such as:
  • When is the best time to meet?
  • Where should you go?
  • What should you do during the date? … and after?
I’ll explore the answers to each of these questions based on what I’ve learned through trial and error and the collective wisdom of dating books, blogs and websites.  The first coffee date I will focus on is what I refer call the Pricey Date and reflects a moment from the past, the next post will spotlight a more recent encounter that is an example of a Casual Date and from the sum of all that I’ve learned I will later present the Ideal Date.

The Pricey Coffee Date (The Past)

The coffee date is one of the best first dates as it requires very little money to execute.  At most coffee shops, two coffees will cost you less than $5, and you could also share a dessert or pastry.  About a year ago, I met up with  a woman for a blind date and ended up spending $20 on coffee and dessert, because we went to the Grove and sat down at a restaurant (even though it was called a “café”) and ordered two lattes (about $5 each) with two desserts, which were gigantic and could easily have satiated a crowd of six.  We met at 8:00 p.m. to chat and from that experience here is …

What I learned
1)  Sitting down at a restaurant for a cup of coffee and dessert makes everything more expensive.  It’s hard for me to see $5 as an acceptable price for a cappuccino, but you have to know you’re paying for the sophisticated restaurant environment.  The perk is that it creates a more attractive atmosphere, but you’ll also have to fork over more cash for tips and dealing with a server.  

2)  Waiters typically don’t like customers who are just buying coffee and dessert, so be upfront and extra nice.  If you’re not ordering a full-on meal, the waiter knows he’s in for a more miniscule amount of tip, which means you could get bad service.  Say up front when you sit down that you’re there for coffee and dessert.  This way, the waiter won’t bring out the bread and pester you to order appetizers, drinks, specials, etc.  Be friendly and smile at your waiter, which also has the benefit of allowing your date to see that you’re a social and amicable man. 

3)  Stay for one hour tops, but about 45 minutes is best.  Consider how a hot drink cools rapidly, and will be at room temperature in less than 20 minutes.  The optimal time to enjoy it is rather short.  Even if the conversation is going well, you’ve completed the act of enjoying a cup of coffee after no more than 20 minutes, so use this as a reason to end the coffee portion of the date and do something else.  Set this up beforehand by telling your waiter “thanks, that will be all” the moment the coffees and one dessert (two is way too many) arrive so he’ll know to bring the check.  You can then pay immediately and you’ll now have the freedom to leave the restaurant as you please, even best when the conversation point is at a high such as after a great story or shared laugh. 

If it’s going well, you can now end the date early and build anticipation for the next one or continue the night in a new direction.  We will explore how to elevate the coffee date in the new two posts.

The post next Monday will examine a Casual Date for coffee that happened at a Starbucks in Culver City

So  if you’ve been on a coffee date…

What did you like about it?  What turned you off?  Do you have any suggestions for our readers? 

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Monday, August 1, 2011

Inside the driver’s seat at a speed dating event

Speed LA Dating invited the LA Dating Blog to experience one of their signature speed dating events with a twist: instead of sitting at a table, singles are chauffeured around Beverly Hills in brand new cars. 

Speed dating inside a Cadillac

By Eric Horwitz

There was a noticeable buzz in the air, one of excitement and a bit of nervousness, as singles sipped cocktails and mingled at the Avalon Hotel’s poolside patio in anticipation of the speed dating event hosted by “Speed LA Dating."  The company offers high-end speed dating and matchmaking services that are hosted at chic lounges and clubs all over Los Angeles.  A typical speed dating event has the guys move from table to table to meet each girl for a few minutes, however last Thursday’s “Drive ‘N Date” was paired with Chevrolet’s Centennial Anniversary and had a twist: each guy would sit in the back seat of a new GMC, Chevrolet or Cadillac car as the women would join them for a short ride around the Beverly Hills neighborhood. 

The cars were as new to me as the experience of speed dating.  I had an image of a packed room with singles being herded like sheep from one station to the next as the buzzer counts off exactly 6 minutes per interaction.  Instead, Anoush Stevenson, the founder of “Speed LA Dating” and originally from England, wanted to bring her brand of speed dating to Los Angeles with sophistication and style.  Events have been held at trendy clubs like STK and Playhouse with gourmet appetizers and no corny nametags. 

I met Anoush at the beginning of the event and she spiritedly recounted how she was always the “party person” and wanted to bring some class to the speed dating scene, and since starting the company in 2007 it has flourished with branches in other major U.S. cities.

Her events attract men and women in their 20s and 30s with anywhere from 30-40 people attending each night.  The Speed LA Dating event calendar lists 13 events happening in the month of August alone at such hips spots as Xino, District and Eve, and cost $42 to attend.  What’s amazing is how 6 of those nights in August, state that WOMEN TICKETS ARE SOLD OUT, according to the website.  That’s a draw for any guy who has ever wondered “where all the women?” as his crew bounces from bar to bar on a weekend night. 

First Impressions
As I arrived with my friend Kevin to report on and participate at the event, I was impressed by the clean and contemporary feel of the hotel and the cheery nature of the British hosts.  The first girl I met was Dana, dressed up in a sleek red dress, who shared that this was her first speed dating experience that she signed up for because of a colleague’s dare. 

In the patio, the men were adorned in full suits, while others, myself included, wore collared shirts and jeans.  The women looked dolled up as they sported fitted skirts, blouses, dresses and lots of high heels.  It all felt elegant but comfortable, like an after-work happy hour, and I was glad that the event was understated.

I interviewed a few guys who were speed dating veterans about what they would talk about during the 6-minute drive.  You could probably guess their inquires:  What do you do?   Where are you from?  How long have you lived in LA?  All of these are very standard get-to-know-you questions, but without much spark.  I was determined to bring some life into the conversation with any girl who stepped into my vehicle.

My Ride
At the valet, I crossed my fingers in hopes of getting a sexy sports car, but soon I was ushered into the middle seat of a GMC 2011 Acadia, (pic) an SUV that was still nice-looking and, as I would later discover, fortunately more comfortable and spacious than a convertible. 

But this was not your average SUV, as it was equipped with lights and video cameras, to record footage of this special event.  (All other events ARE NOT video taped, just this one.)  Behind the driver and passenger seats were two bright lights next to two small video cameras, which was hardly a “natural” way to meet someone, but I was prepared to go with the flow.

My first date was with a cheery woman who looked a little older than my typical mid-20s dating pool, but proved to be good company for the drive.  We talked about the silliness of being videotaped in the backseat of a car during our first encounter, but soon we relaxed and chatted about our passions, which were for me always include cooking and Italy

Soon we were back in front of the hotel and I was marking my impressions on a score card with selections such as “Fancy a drink sometime” or “Not my cup of tea.” 

The next date was with a stylish fashionista who regularly travels to Milan to work with shoe designers.  She had come to the event with a few of her friends, and seemed a bit aloof in conversation. 

You’re in a Car, What do you talk about?
Inside the Chevy Camaro
By the fourth date, I had become more accustomed to my surroundings and employed my usual strategies when I’m at a party where I don’t know many people:

- Befriend those around you
- Be playful and crack jokes

My driver Jason and I quickly became acquainted and I introduced him as my co-pilot to my dates. 

Also, when a girl would enter, one of the event hosts would tell her to buckle her seat belt, to which I would add with a  mock-serious face, “Please keep all arms and legs inside the vehicle at all times.  It’s going to be a bumpy ride.” 

I’d then ask her if she’d like a “tour” of the car. 

“My architect and I are planning to do some remodeling,” I said with a smile, “but here’s the general game plan.”  Pointing to the front seat, “This is where the lounge will be, as it offers great views of the city.”  I explained that the middle seats, where the two of us were talking, was the living area, best for greeting guests and getting the party started.

In the back seats, “We’re going to install a kitchen because I love to cook, and in the corner we’re thinking of adding a jacuzzi.”  By now, a date would be smiling or laughing, and as I gestured to the roof I mentioned how I wasn’t sure how to decorate a few blank walls with art and wanted her input.

I then got a sense of each woman’s artistic style, as one suggested a neon art installation like from one of her favorite museums while another preferred a simple, patterned wall paper to not takeaway from the rest of the car.  I’ve always been a goofball, and I made it a point to enjoy the conversation, regardless of whether or not I was interested in dating the girl. 

My secret exposed
I was excited when Dana stepped into my car on the fifth date, but suddenly she pointed at me and said, “You!  You’re undercover!”  Word had traveled that I was covering the event for a dating blog, and gave off the impression that I was there only for the story and not to seriously experience speed dating, which was not true.  I tried to assure her that I was single and interested in going out with anyone I felt a connection with that night.  She calmed down and I made a mental note to next time be more discreet… which would mean NOT holding a small notebook and pen in my hand.

By the time we arrived back at the hotel, we had had a great chat with all of those pleasant non-verbal “good-signs” like strong eye contact and leaning in during the conversation.  She complimented me by noting that our ride had passed by the fastest so far.

After what was well over an hour of meeting seven women, I was happy when the event ended so I could step out of my SUV and take in some fresh non-air-conditioned air.  I turned in my score card and went to meet with my friend to get his perspective.

Kevin gestured to his legs and shouted, my “legs feel numb!”  He had been driven in a posh red convertible, the 2011 Chevy Camaro (pic) which is great to show off to a date when you are both in the front seat, but when you’re in the back seat, the leg room is very limiting.  Still, he had a good time and had even asked one girl to go on two rides in a row, having felt that they were connecting and deserved more time together.

Two daters share their night in the Confessional Cab
Back at the hotel, the crowd was nibbling on desserts and getting the opportunity to spend more time with those they liked.  I had the chance to go into the “Confessional Cab” to share my experience for 2 minutes in front of a video camera, to which I was happily rewarded with AMC movie tickets.  Later, I re-acquainted myself with a few ladies I had met before.  Everyone seemed to be enjoying themselves and I could tell some dates were being setup and numbers exchanged. 

As we headed out, Kevin, an entrepreneur with a business-like mind, noted that he would definitely do Speed LA Dating again, because it was unique, fun and…though this may sound unromantic… “efficient.”  He liked how he got to meet a lot of women who were all single and interested in mingling, which is a better use of one’s time than talking to girl after girl to get a date at a bar. 

A few attendees voiced small complaints about being stuck in a car for too long or not being able to meet enough men, as they preferred the "car-free" dating events.   I later noticed a group of girls huddling around their phones and discussing their plans to sign-up for the next event at the “W” Hotel later that month. 

I walked away with a pleasant experience, a phone number in hand and the reassuring thought that if you’re single, there are a lot of great opportunities to meet women, and to see if speed dating is for you, I suggest you test drive it yourself.

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