Sunday, January 10, 2010

The Bewitching Hour

A key element of dating is simply meeting the girl, and the most common time and place to meet such women are on Friday and Saturday nights. While this is not revelatory, what is interesting is not where or how, but WHEN is the best time to meet women at a bar or club. The other night revealed an issue men face known as the “Bewitching Hour”

11:00 p.m. I arrive at a bar called “Nikki’s” in Venice and am shocked to find a line to enter. Come on, it’s Venice, not Hollywood! At the back of the line, I engaged two girls and a guy in conversation wondering why Venice felt so superior that it would have a bar with lines. While chatting, I learned a lot about the birthday group they were preparing to meet, and was satisfied that I had just made new friends.

11:20 p.m. Inside, I run into my Polish friends but decide to mingle some more. I strike up a conversation with two girls, with a fun, casual line:

Me: “Cheers! Hey, do you know how to say cheers in a different language?”
Them: “Salud!” (Spanish) and “Na zdrowie!” (Polish)
Me: And here’s Italian for ya, “Chin Chin!”

At this point, I have come in with a fun attitude and now have cultures and ethnic backgrounds to discuss. Next thing I know, I have four girls around me, and one cute one happens to be an attractive Professor of Jewish Literature visiting UCLA.

Me: “Wow, you must know a lot about the chosen people.”
Her: “Yeah, more than you!”
Me: “How did you know I was a Jew? Did my ski slope give it away?” (points to my large Jewish nose)
Her: ::laughs::

Meanwhile, I have been spotted as eye candy from two attractive Asians from across the room, and I write down in my mental notebook to talk to them later.

11:30 a.m. A friend arrives and I excuse myself to chat with her.

11:55 a.m. I’ve ambled around the bar, and after catching up with my friends, we hit the dance floor.

12:10 a.m. I’m off to talk to the fun girls I met earlier and ALL OF THEM ARE GONE.

Yes, every single cool girl I met are nowhere to be found.

Gentlemen, beware of the “bewitching hour,” that evil time period after midnight when a lot of the appealing girls have disappeared, perhaps to bar hop, grab a bite or head home early.

From my experience, the best time to go to a bar, lounge or club is from 9:00 p.m. – 12:00 a.m. because in the early hours you can introduce yourself to many people, and after showing the room you’re a fun, friendly guy to meet, you can reacquaint yourself with everyone you met before they are plastered. Remembering people’s names is important, so here is a method I use:

(Note: It’s best to memorize no more than four names at once, because anymore more and you probably won’t remember everyone)

Remembering Names

1) As you shakes hands with a new person, say their name loud and clearly
“Hi, George, I’m Eric.”
2) Immediately say everyone’s name in the group.
“George, Amanda, John and Ashley. I’m Eric, remember that because there will be a pop quiz in five minutes.”
3) Use everyone’s name in conversation at least once.
“George, can you believe this line to enter the bar? I tried flashing the bouncer to get in, but it did NOT work. I even showed a little nipple.”

Armed with this knowledge, the following is a breakdown of the best possible night:

9:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m. Get to know everyone you can with short, fun conversations. Excuse yourself so you can mingle as new people trickle into the bar.

10:00 p.m. – 11:00 p.m. Reintroduce yourself to groups you are already friends with. If you can introduce one group you met to another, you have become that much cooler. Get to know that girl you had your eyes on in a more intimate atmosphere, away from the pounding music.

11:00 p.m. – 12:00 a.m. GET YOUR DANCE ON. The alcohol has thoroughly lubricated the crowd, making it easier to build rapport with people. Get her number, and make loose plans to follow up on.

After three hours of socializing during the most ideal parts of the evening, your night will have been both fun and successful in meeting someone to date. After midnight, women tend to ratchet up their defenses or are to drunk to properly meet.

So beware of the bewitching hour. Start earlier and plan to end earlier. Use the time after midnight to catch up with friends.

Gentlemen, are their time frames you have found to be more successful to meet women at bars or clubs?

Bar Review:
“Nikki’s” in Venice. 72 Market Street.

Fun and crowded, Nikki’s is one large space dominated by a dance floor. DJs start the night with appealing, modern tracks but detour into dull 90s rap after midnight. Drinks are well-priced, and the people there are a good mix of party-goers who didn’t feel like going through Hollywood pretentiousness to have a good night.


Swim said...

What? this serious?

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